Introduction:

I wrote this poem back in February 2020 and reshared again in 2024, and it still hits a nerve—in the best way. Not because it was about my marriage, but because it captured the complex, sacred dance that is marriage itself. I’ve had countless conversations with other women since then—friends, mentors, strangers—and there’s a common thread: we’re trying to be loyal, loving wives while also staying grounded in what God is whispering into our hearts.

We deeply trust our husbands, we’re grateful, we honor their role as leaders in our homes. But we also know things. We feel when something is off. And sometimes, we stay quiet to keep the peace… until that silence becomes a burden.

I’ve watched so many women bend past their breaking point—some ignored, some betrayed, some just unseen. And I’ve seen others haunted by past wounds that still choke out the love they crave today. The truth: love isn’t supposed to be that complicated. God is love. It is His creations- The enemy is the one who twists it into fear, control, silence, and confusion.

When we love with honesty, wisdom, patience, and faith—when we pray and stay rooted in God’s Word—we shift the atmosphere. I’ve learned in my own marriage that we’re not supposed to be the same person. We’re meant to challenge and balance each other. We didn’t meet polished and perfect. We were both messy. We fought hard. We had outside interference. We almost didn’t make it. But God told me to hold on… so I did.

Twenty plus years later, we’re stronger than ever—not because we got it all right, but because we let God lead. I believe He moved us, time and time again, to pull us away from what was toxic and realign us with Him—and with each other.

So, if you’re struggling in your relationship right now—don’t give up without a fight. But make sure you’re fighting for each other, not with each other. Cut out the noise. Go to therapy. Pray together. Have fun again. Heal together.

You can rebuild. You can grow. You can come back better.

P.S I wrote a When Love Grows | Part 2 and the end and I hope you enjoy it… because after rain blooms a graden. We need rain, we need the heat, that’s it hard to expect but it’s what gives for the garden of life. 🌿

Skelly 🤍

Love, Growth & The Journey in Between

Marriage is the most beautiful and challenging journey I’ve ever taken—my favorite thing, the best thing I’ve ever done. But love isn’t just about the easy moments; it’s about showing up, even when it’s hard. In 2020, I found myself in the middle of my own healing, breaking down walls I didn’t even realize I had built. I had to learn how to take care of myself before I could fully show up for the people I love. Because marriage isn’t about losing yourself—it’s about growing together while still holding onto who you are. It’s a delicate balance of love, sacrifice, and learning how to be two individuals building one life. I’m endlessly grateful for the guy beside me, for the love that keeps evolving, and for the lessons that remind me that even through the hard moments, choosing each other is always worth it.

Are you walking through a hard season in your marriage or relationship? You're not alone. I invite you to pray, grow, and trust that God’s not done writing your love story. 💌
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When Love Grows Up

Once upon a time, it felt so real,
Saying “I love you” was easy to feel.

A kindness grew, a shelter so wide,
Under its cover, I’d always abide.

Passion burned, so strong and bright,
Something new—something right.

Now we’re tired, a little worn down,
Trying to smile, trying not to drown.

We argue, we push, we stand our ground,
Fighting to win, but love still surrounds.

Making up—it’s what we do,
Two different souls, still pulling through.

A kiss so soft, a touch so true,
But love feels harder than it used to.

Once a treasure, pure and light,
Now, just work, a fading sight.

We had a future, dreams so wide,
The truth is there—I see it hide.

Not happy, not sad, just stuck in between,
Missing the love where we used to be seen.

SK–

When Love Grows | Part 2

We didn’t start soft,
We came in bruised
Two fighters, two hearts
With everything to lose.

I shut down,
You lashed out.
You ran silent,
I screamed in doubt.

But grace broke in
A whisper, not a shout.
God stood still in the wreckage
And turned us both around.

We learned the rhythm,
Not of perfect steps,
But of stumbling forward
With holy intent.

It’s not always pretty,
It’s not always fair.
But you still show up,
And I’m still there.

It’s the little things now
A hand on my back,
A prayer in the morning,
The strength I lack.

I don’t always say much,
But I see it all.
And you’re learning to soften,
Not just stand tall.

We’re not who we were,
And we’re not done yet.
We’re learning that love
Is choosing to reset.

Every argument,
Every moment apart,
Led us back to
One stubborn heart.

So here we are—
Older, better, real.
Still tired some days,
But more and more heal.

God wrote this story,
Broken lines and all.
And I’d still choose you
For the rise and the fall.

SK-

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