I first wrote this in 2020 as a reflection. A therapy exercise meant to untangle the weight of years spent moving, growing, and searching for balance. Today, I share it again—not as a story of struggle, but as a testament to love, transformation, and to the undeniable grace of God in my marriage.
My husband is the greatest blessing of my life. I have seen with my heart wide open, that God made him for me and me for him. Through every trial, every lesson, every moment we thought we had nothing left to give, God was shaping something unbreakable. There was a time when I carried him, not realizing he, too, was carrying me in his own way. As the eldest daughter, nurturing was second nature—I instinctively took care of him, taught him, led him. But as the years passed, I began to long for something deeper, for him to meet me where I stood. I was weary, empty, convinced I had poured out all I had. And then, something shifted.
Through prayer, through stillness, through the quiet surrender of simply seeing—really seeing—I recognized that we had always been walking the same path, just at different paces. I had mistaken my role as his guide when, in truth, we were meant to walk side by side. He wasn’t just learning; he was fighting his own battles, carrying his own burdens, trying to become the man God had called him to be. And I? I was not alone. I was not abandoned. I was his, and he was mine, and together, we were God’s design.
This love, this marriage, is my greatest gift. It is proof that even when we falter, even when we think we are breaking, God is at work, weaving something stronger than before. My husband—not as someone I must carry, he is my partner, my greatest earthly love. And so, I share this again, for him and for anyone who needs the reminder: Never lose hope. Trust in God’s timing. What He has brought together, no one can tear apart.
Arise and go. ❤
️Skelly
Today 2025
If Only You Saw Yourself the Way, I See You…
The last three and a half years have been hard—full of lessons, growth, and moments of reckoning. It wasn’t anything we expected. Adjusting to our new life and facing the hurdles along the way has been a struggle. But even in the worst, most painful moments, we faced them together.
You’ve worked tirelessly, pushing yourself to the limit, sometimes to the point of exhaustion. Long hours, endless drives, sacrificing your health just to be the best, to master your role. And you did—faster than anyone expected. Your drive and determination propelled us forward, and before we knew it, we were in a new place, trying to convince ourselves this was an adventure… that this was a good thing.
There was no time to settle in, no time to make this place feel like home. You went right back to work, straight to the top, because that’s who you are. But the truth is, it’s been lonely—for both of us.
Your hard work moves us forward, but it’s more than that. It’s your will, your experience, and the wisdom you share so freely. It’s your brilliance, your dedication to mastering your craft. Your vision for the future and your ability to inspire those around you. It’s no surprise they transferred you to one of the largest zones in the nation so quickly—or that you were promoted just as fast. But none of it came without sacrifice. Sacrifice to we all play for. Is it wrong to say that we have also been loaded with extreme stress in our blessings?
The stress and overwhelming pressure of making life-altering decisions for our family are terrifying. We’re moving across the country, uprooting everything again and again, and trying to hold it all together for the kids. I know you carry the weight of it all, thinking if anything goes wrong, it’s on you. Guess what? I feel that way, too. It’s never all on you. It’s all on us. The one who tries to convince you of that lie is not for you. They don’t love you. They are against you. It has always been us making this work.
For too long, we’ve been doing far more than our share—alone. You, in your world, and me, in mine. Pulling it all together and meeting in the middle. Just hoping for the best, with expectations set low because we know we were raised that way. But not anymore. We’re not living like that anymore. Even good change is scary, even freedom can feel overwhelming. You get used to your bubble, to the chaos you can control. You make yourself believe you are managing it but it’s a lie too. And then one day you wake up.
And now, you’re panicked. You look around and see all the things, all the people, needing you—and it’s overwhelming. You haven’t had to deal with this in a while. But you have done this before, and you did it well. And yes, my expectations have changed but I woke up a while ago. I want us to live better, be present and intentional, create something meaningful beyond just surviving. And so should you. Live with me in a different head space.
I know you can manage this, that you can prioritize your life. This place isn’t just work—it’s an escape from work. It is life you don’t need a break from. It’s a place you always know you’re not alone and never being rushed. You’re just not being allowed to stand still. God is asking you to “arise and go” and everything will fall into place. We will make a home, and we will be good. We will have joy again, step by step. You have to let God lead.
You and I—we will rise to this opportunity, together. And maybe, just maybe, this is the road back to ourselves we’ve been waiting for.
I know it. Trust the plans He has for you. He has for us. Surrender and obey. He will protect you. I promise whatever you think you need or want is nothing compared to what He has in store for you.
-SK
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